Well, a few months passed by without any positive "pee-sticks" and of course it got me really discouraged but we just hung in there and hoped that it would happen eventually. In the meantime the Lord really started burdening our hearts for adoption...specifically the boys we met in Congo. I knew the Lord had laid it on my heart but Luke wasn't too sure yet. He thought of it as something we would maybe do "down the road." I asked him to pray about it and we both spent some time praying about it on our own. In the meantime the missionaries had sent us an e-mail about the children in the home, wishing they had families who could take them in. It spoke to us because we hadn't mentioned adoption to them at all....so it wasn't like they knew we were praying about it. When Luke and I talked about it again we were both on the same page and really felt like God was calling us to do something. So we decided to talk with our pastor and get his thoughts on it all. At the time Congo did not have any agencies working in the country so we would have had to go through contacts the missionaries had in order to complete an adoption. In addition, most of the children were older...like age 4 and up. Our pastor encouraged us that adoption is definitely biblical, which we knew to be true (after all, it's an example of what God has done for Christians in making us a part of His family forever. Romans 8:15-17 says, "15 For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!” 16 The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are children of God, 17 and if children, heirs also, heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, if indeed we suffer with Him so that we may also be glorified with Him." And John 1:12 says "12 But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God." ). So we definitely knew this was something God approved of and even set an example for. Our pastor encouraged us to continue to prayerfully consider it and just see what doors opened up.
We decided to talk with our parents as well and I guess get their "blessing." We wanted them to know what we were considering and to ask for them wisdom and guidance as to what they thought about it. Plus, we really wanted their prayers....this was a big decision we were considering! Both parents were very supportive and encouraged us in our decision. We were "hesitantly" excited as it seemed the Lord was really working in our lives.
So...the next big step?? We decided to e-mail the missionaries back and let them know we were interested in adoption, specifically from Congo and from their boys' home. They said they would get us any info they could on what it would require and would keep their eyes out for young children (we felt more comfortable adopting a child or children as young as possible) who were orphaned. We had no idea where this would lead but within a month or so the missionaries had e-mailed us with pictures of 2 children who needed a family. It was a brother and a sister and I can still remember their faces. They were so sweet but so badly malnourished. You could see all of the bones sticking out of their body and they were so small for their age. The missionaries estimated that they were about 5 and 7...but it was hard to tell because they were so malnourished. They told us they didn't want us to feel any pressure, but they wanted to inform us of any children than came along, so that is what they were doing. We prayed about it lots and talked with our pastor and really wrestled over the decision. But after much prayer we just didn't have peace about the decision. It was so hard to say no to those precious little faces, but we knew it was the right decision. We e-mailed the missionaries and told them no and told them we really felt the child or children we adopted needed to be much younger. So, they said they'd continue to keep their eyes out and keep praying about it.
We kept praying about it too and in the meantime we were still trying for a pregnancy. But so far God had opened our hearts WIDE open to the idea of adoption and we were ready to follow Him in that way whenever He called us to do so.
Alright....the two little rascals (we're babysitting our friends' son, remember?) I've got are making big messes....I better stop there and get some dinner started! Hope you all have a blessed weekend, and a worship-filled Sunday!
Happy Friday...enjoy it! I know I'm headed for a movie and the hot tub as soon as the babies are in bed! Woohoo! :)
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